Dear daughter,
Today there was a funeral held for Rehtaeh Parsons, a 17-year-old Canadian girl who was allegedly gang raped and then bullied until she hung herself.
What I want you to know about suicide is that it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Being a teenager can be hard, trust me I do understand. I understand that sometimes it can feel like the whole world is against you, but it isn’t the whole world. It’s some kids in your hometown who can’t wait to get out, just like you. The 4 years of high school may feel like forever, but it’s just 4 years. After that, some of the bullies will leave, you may leave, things will change.
Sometimes things become too out of control even during high school that even 4 years is unbearable. I need to know when you feel that way. I know you think parents just make things worse, but I really can help. There are so many options, but I need to know what is going on. It truly does get better.
For my part you need to know that you can come to me. That is why even now, at age 8, I try not to dismiss your feelings or friend troubles at school. I want you to know that I will be here when you really need me.
Of course, this conversation doesn’t guarantee anything. Most teens who commit suicide have parents who love them. Certainly Rehtaeh Parsons did. However, I feel the more we talk about these problems, the easier it becomes to talk about them.
I will always be here when you need me.
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